On June 24, 1904 my grandmother was born in Potter (Potter Junction), Polk Co. AR. She had one brother, Henry Howard, Jr. born in 1907.

By 1910, they were living in Le Flore, OK where Henry was working as a pumer in the railroad pump station. Henry is 72 and Fannie is 37.  This is his 2nd marriage and her 1st.
(1910 Census, Page, Le Flore, Oklahoma; Roll: T624_1258; Page: 16A; Enumeration District: 151; Image: 386.)

They later moved to Ottawa, KS. It was during this time that Henry, Sr. became very ill. He was so ill that everyone thought he was going to die. Henry had a friend, Albert Lindstrom, who approached him about leaving a young wife with two small children to care for. Albert had a plan-- if Henry would divorce Fannie, Albert would marry her and see to it that they were all provided for. The situation must have been a grievous one because Henry took Albert up on his offer.

He continued to live with Albert, Fannie and the two children until his death, Nov. 20, 1914.  His obit in the Monday, Nov. 23, 1914 evening edition of the "Ottawa Republic" states:
 
Rhodes Funeral--The funeral services of Harry H. Rhodes, who died Saturday morning at the home of Arthur Lindstrom, 747 Prince Street was held this afternoon at 2:30 from the Undertaking parlors of Bell & Bryd. Interment was made in Hope cemetery (Ottawa, Franklin Co., KS.). The G.A.R. conducted the services. (A copy of this can be obtained from writing to the Ottawa Library and requesting a search.)

According to my grandmother, she believed Henry was her grandfather until she was a teenager. My grandmother didn't recall just how she learned of this but once she knew, she  asked her mother which of her husbands did she love best. Fannie replied, "Your father. Henry is who I loved the best."

Henry is buried in Hope Cemetery, He would never speak of his family, only saying that he was from PA. His death certificate has lines drawn through the spaces where his parents' names would go. Grandmother stated that once when Fannie pressed Henry to tell her about his family, all he would say was that he drank a lot when he was younger and one night, while drunk, his siblings tricked him into signing away his birthright. The next morning, realizing what had happened, he left, never to return.

Henry did tell Fannie that he had lied about his age so that he could join the fighting in the civil war. I haven't been able to figure out why as he would have been 35 had he enlisted in 1862.

His death certificate lists his birth as Feb. 18, 1837 and his age as 67. This doesn't make sense as he would have been 77.  We do not really know what year he was born or what northern state he is from.  We have located a 1900 Census for Pittsburg Ward 4, Crawford, Kansas, Roll: T623 477; Page: 8B; Enumeration District: 87  where I believe Henry was a border with the Harbert family. This Henry Rhodes lists his birth as Feb 1838 in Penn. and his occupation as a machiner (& ??).  He is also listed as "Married". 

Searching the war records, we found only one Henry  Rhodes and he was a Corpl. Co. E, Sixth Michigan (The War of the Rebellion, Series I- Vol. XXVI, Part I, 1889, page 62). There was a Henry Rhodes at the end of the war in New Orleans, LA, at the Battle of Fort Hudson. In the "Special Schedule-Surviving Soldiers, Sailors, and Marines, and Widows, etc 1890" page 2, line 17, there is a Henry Rhodes who list his rank as "corporal", no company, list regiment as "13th Conn.", enlistment as "1862", discharge date "1864". Under the section marked Post Office for line 17, it states New Orleans, LA. Under "Remarks", it states "papers burnt".